Why I dislike Sex.

Don't get me wrong, the gratification during the act is great. It is the thoughts before and after that throw me off. For example, we are celebrating our 1 year anniversary tommorrow, now before I go any further I should explain that I attend college two hours away from my lover, so we rarely get a chance to make the bed shake, but I am home for winter break and we have seen each other around 5 days every week, and I have been home 3 weeks, so about 15 times we have been together. Ask me how many times we have had sex. three times. Now, that may work for some people, but when your used to a summer of constant play time, one has to wonder... what happened? Could our libidos really be leaving us at the ripe age of 19? or is there something wrong with our relationship?

See what I mean? when we have sex It's great, but all the energy I put into thinking about why we dont do it more often is not so great. Of course I could be on the other end of the spectrum. Having to much sex. Even then I would still over analyze the frequency. This leads me to my ultimate point/question.

Can you judge the health of a relationship based on the frequency of sex?

Why I am Frustrated...

If you're significant other was cheating on you, and they told your friend about it. Wouldn't you want your friend to tell you? Or would you go with the thought, what I dont know wont hurt me?

I am so frustrated because in the past 72 hours I have had to make the same decision twice, about two separate couples. I was put in an awkward situation and had to think of what I would want someone to do. It dawned on me that I would want to know the truth, no matter how much it hurt.

After lengthy conversations with both couples on the effects of cheating and being cheated on, after all, all of this talk brings back memories of the 3 ex's who decided to cheat on me. Both couples frustrated me because the party who was cheated on, instantly forgave the other person. Even though there was significant evidence that the unfaithful one has thought about cheating on multiple occasions.

So why am I frustrated? If your not happy in a relationship, talk it out, and if that doesn't work... why cheat when you can just part ways?